BTW, in case you and Bug and 25 are not reading between the lines, I am not advocating one way or another here. I tell you my story about the Memorandum because we both needed to operate as if we were legally separated without going that far. I realize it doesn't work for everyone. But I was absolutely resolute on giving my M every shot I could. It was the only way I could look myself in the mirror every morning.
So like 25 said, what is the harm in thinking this through. Now if there is the chance that you don't post everything your H says, then this probably changes things. I'm not speaking about him having affairs, but I'm addressing the looming e-mail he wrote to you. Do you actually know what he means by not dragging this out?
And I will also throw in my own $.02 on filing with an OP. I didn't have that. My XH's OW was Jack Daniels and beer chasers. But had he moved out and took up with OW, I probably would have filed too. Again, I wouldn't have wanted him to spend money I believed were rightfully the kids going somewhere else without having protection for them and myself. I knew he wasn't with an OP because his moving out triggered an NSA investigation on him for his clearances, and had access to the findings. But you don't know that.
Again, I say that if you take care of your own needs and look out for the interest of your children, you are creating healthy boundaries for you and your family. Define what those steps are and how you want to live your life. And if you don't like it, tweak it until you do.
Make sense?
I'm certainly not here as the moral police. That's not my job, nor do I want that job. My BFF walked out on her long term BF when she found out he was cheating. It wasn't that she couldn't forgive him. It was because she didn't like the person she was becoming because of it, and that was HER deal breaker. So... you might want to explore that angle too.
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
