I think what Bug said is interesting. . Certain people can't meet our needs and that's ok. I get our spouses not meeting our needs. We need to adjust and get things done by ourselves without them or despite them. What I have a hard time dealing with is people who can't meet their children's Needs.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15