Magic, Yes, I saw your posts and I also have read each and every posting that you have written on the Board. You talk a good game, but whatever changes that you make are not permanent. One minute you say you are doing such and such and as soon as your SO does something, you are right back in the rabbit hole. You, and only you, can make those changes and make them consistent and permanent.
It's any wonder the posters get frustrated after posting to you time and time again. The same advice, and yes support, were given to you when you first came to the Board. The advice and support still stand. Stop analyzing, mind reading and watching his every move. Stop hanging on to his every word because many times, his responses are just responses w/no hidden agenda. Accept him for who he is today...a business partner, nothing more. Learn to look at him as you would a business associate and when you do this, you'll discover that he's talking to you just as he would anyone else and not a companion/sex partner. Learn to accept the fact that you are separated and what he does on his own time is his business, just as what you do is your business. If he wishes to share, then listen and if you want to share fine....but don't act like a spoiled child stomping her feet if he doesn't want to come over and play in your sandbox. If you want to go out, just do it, you don't have to tell him. Stop trying to control and/or manipulate situations and him, his thoughts and feelings. If we can see what you are doing, so can he.
Also, the advice you were given in the very first thread over on Newcomers was keep the focus on you. I don't see that very often here...it's all about HIM 99.9% of the time. That's not YOU.
No Magic, you've not made GREAT progress. You've made some progress. Your progress is only as good as the minute you start working on yourself. The minute he does or says something, you revert back to your old self. Actions speak louder then words.
I want you to take the time and sit down and think about what we ALL have been telling you. If we ALL have been telling you the same or very similar things, then we ALL can't be wrong.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
