own a buz 20: confused within the confusion

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Magic,
Not only stop over analyzing, but all of the analyzing and mind reading. Can't you just accept the fact that he's being nice and pleasant? Can't you accept the fact that maybe, just maybe he's trying to be nice and pleasant because he's discovered that it works better for the both of you in the work place?

Learn to accept him for who is his today. There is most likely no ulterior motive for being nice. Let me ask you this...would you prefer him to ignore you or be angry and snippy all of the time? Be thankful that he's being a better person to work with.

As for his comments about you being hung over...he's not inquiring as to what you did or didn't do. You had told him that you were not feeling well, so he asked if it was because you were hung over...nothing more. No curiosity or jealousy there at all. Just a normal question about your health that anyone would have asked you.

How in the world are you getting anything done for work or in your private life? You have given me the impression that all you do is obsess about this man and you know what? He knows it and he also knows that you haven't changed a bit. Yes, you say you've changed, but every times he does something, whether it's good or bad, right down in the rabbit hole you go back to your old habits of mind reading and over analyzing.

It would be very nice to come here and see that you are doing things for yourself and not post one word about your SO for a change. It's time to put him aside and focus on YOU, YOUR life and what YOU are doing with YOUR life.

Obsessing about his every word or every move isn't going to change anything about him, trying to figure him out is useless and the more you try, the more you "think" you are seeing and hearing things that may or may not be what he's doing.

Leave the man be. Learn to like yourself and live your life for you.