My W didn't respect my boundary this morning about communicating directly to each other about rides for kids, etc. She went to her office this morning without taking kids in to school due to 2 hour delay. She left a message with D13 to give me. When I yelled up from my office to make sure they were ready on time for W, D13 said, "oh dad, mom said you'd take us in. She's already over in town at work..."
I politely called W and reiterated that in these cases I would be very helpful if she would communicate directly as I had previously asked. She gave excuses to which I replied: "I understand, if you could please just send me a short text next time to let me know directly, that will help me help the kids and we'll all be better off....thanks! I'm sure you're busy and I have a meeting to get to so let me let you go now..."
As I said earlier, this is really turning into a business arrangement and it has no advantages to me at all. Not sure I want this anymore....she's not moving in any way that I can see.
There are people who just can't meet our needs and they don't have to.
We have to recognize that and act accordingly.
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Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
