One thing that came about since my last women's support meeting was that exact fact! It is true that I have dodged responsibility for myself.... and I will tell you why. Over time, I began enabling h to make the decisions for me to avoid fights. Since then, it became habit and didn't realize I was doing it still. Even though you were all telling me... I still didn't understand/see it till recently.
It is part of my new goal:
"I value myself and take responsibility in my life so that I feel worthy and confident in myself and my decisions"
a few of my action steps to help with this are: -don't fear outcome *take risk, stand behind my decision -stop making my self worth conditional on other people -retrain my thoughts (to catch when I am doing this) and reassess before responding. -measure success daily (write down where/how I was able to prove this)
Things are changing.
What are your thoughts of h's responses to things of lately?
M:46 H:49 T:20yrs myD:22 H distant summer/12 H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12 BD: Dec 2/12 asked me begin to move end of Jan/13 moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff) "agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)
