melissag XII - must. detach.

[paul19510]

M, regardless of your stance on H texting with this OW from a moral standpoint, its good you know, because it shows you in no uncertain terms he's done. it helps you to make further decisions. I wish my W would tell me she wants to work or wants to be out. but all I get is the damned IDK's. Very tired of that. I am pretty sure she knew when she left she was probably never coming home. She's just too scared to say so and I want to have hope for my M even though its been very broken for a long time...so there you go.... Your H may be the same and you did what I just described.

At some point I may choose to give up standing and move beyond my M if W will not choose me again and that should be OK. So many people have been warm, friendly and inviting since W left. I feel human again and I see that I'm not just worthless garbage the W threw away. its very tempting.....

I believe that your H should have been honest with you and said, "...I really don't see us together and intend to move on...." Then you would know. Of course the WAS's have their fantasies and we have ours.

I too saw my S much differently than it has been going. She'd stay in touch, we'd talk, we'd work, we'd go back to our separate places and rest from each other. we'd figure it out. NOT EVEN CLOSE. I used caps b/c it really makes me mad.

Our WAS's lack the courage or conviction or just common sense it seems to decide on much of anything. Then again, if he had told you, would you have believed it? Remember believe none of what you see and only half of what they say....(did it just get that backwards??).

You are doing great If and when you are ready, you'll make a wonderful partner to someone who will love and appreciate the person you are. that timing is for you to choose. you didn't deserve this and neither did I. yet, here we are .

((((Melissa))))