3b....Just a thought on bed time calls. I would let the kids answer those. Make sure they keep it brief and if they hand the phone to you...just say "I am busy, say good bye to daddy and hang up". The one twist with this phone call is that it could be their dad calling to just say good night to them. So honestly, you don't want to appear to be the villian by not letting him talk to the kids, but you keep the boundary up of not talking to him....a win/win for you and the kids.
I love the kick boxing thing.....great way to relieve steam.
I have read more of your posts...as M noted above, IMHO your husband is cake eating big time. It also appears that he reacts the most when you your pull away (your trip to vegas and subsequent ML session) and he works to pull you back in. Set those boundaries so that he learns (don't tell him....let your actions speak instead) what your expectations are. Most people hear actions better than the listen.
As for today....When he asks why you didn't answer the phone last night (it will happen) your reply needs to be "I was busy"......nothing more. Let's work on making you stronger and that starts today. Do not fall for his questions....be stronger and let your actions mirror your values.
