Four weeks in, hopeful but just starting!

[KGirl]

Thanks so far, everyone. I was feeling really good about NOT asking H the questions above or pushing for answers. But then tonight I was chatting online with one of the couple of friends who knows what's happening. She asked the usual questions ("Did he call a lawyer? Have you called a lawyer? Has he moved out? What has he said he wants to do now?" etc.) When I said I didn't know because we hadn't discussed anything related to R/D/M in several weeks because I was following some guidance I had read about not bringing up those topics, she essentially said that I was playing games and that I needed to ask him what is going on so that I know where I stand. Am I playing games?? I do find myself wondering if all this DR/DB is just to make us feel better when we get dumped but not actually addressing the issue. How do I respond to something like this when friends think I'm ridiculous... or do I just stop talking to them? I'm scared to even talk about this "strategy" with my IC for fear he'll also think it's unhealthy/playing games.