I played hooky on Friday so it took me all day to catch up. Plus, it just took longer since I'm depressed about yesterday. Blech.
I was going to write you on Friday but your thread locked. So I'll answer your question from last week now. I grew up in northern VA, and most of my family are still back in the state (from Lynchburg to Staunton to NoVa). I'm not one to yell Wahoowa, though I did attend Mary Washington. My sister is a USNA grad and my dad started at William & Mary but graduated from American. My cousins are scattered and went all over the place. So glad to know another VA alum. I have more Hokie friends, but that's probably because they're mostly engineers?
Hey, I'm glad your L helped you get your head on straight. Look, I'll say this through the overall sentiment that I hope for all of you to get your marriages back. But when they leave, one is left to deal with the business aspects of splitting up financially. Your L is right that it's a business transaction. So I'm glad she helped you frame that aspect of things.
And like I've said before, I know quite a few folks that got things worked out long after the D happened.
Okay, so I laughed when I read your filing comments. In the eyes of our state, they don't care who does it. So I have no feedback on your commentary because I think going down this path WILL help you detach and get back to your center.
Uh, take her advice on getting some cash set aside. Especially if your H does decide to change his professional status. That's all corporate status and her advice was spot on.
From one who knows, the minimum time it takes from filing to the D is 91 days. Mine happened in that timeframe because we converted all our MOAs and settlements in mediation to the D. Then we had to attend the court mandated parenting class and voila! I was single again! (This is totally tongue in cheek, just in case anyone is wondering.) It took longer to buy our RV than to get a D.
As far as your H being on match.com all the time... if he doesn't log out, he stays logged in. I'm not saying he's not a bozo for being there in the first place. 'Cause he is.
Time to head to the chiropractor. I need that adjustment really badly.
TTFN,
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
In the eyes of our state, they don't care who does it. So I have no feedback on your commentary because I think going down this path WILL help you detach and get back to your center.
