She left - My Story, First Post

[gogofo]

On Sunday W came over to get the kids and we had a very quiet exchange, not many things said, just talking to the kids and not to each other. Felt weird and defeating, but I was not going to initial conversation, read the 37 rules before she came over to keep strong.

We had a melt down last Sunday when I asked to take her to lunch and on a date. This is what led me to DR, and now know it was the wrong thing to do.

Is small talk about her work day and classes something that I should be doing right now? I know that for the last 6 months this was something that was missing. Think this should be one of my 180s, but don't want it to seem like pursuing.

I also know W is getting interest from co-workers about her doctoral program, but I don't want to be replaced as her support structure.

Before we blew up last Sunday, we pretty much agreed on what the issues were on 90% to 95% of our M. The solution is where we differ, but I was pushing and pursuing and now know from the 37 rules not to take much stock in what she says.