* It seems both sons are happier with me not talking about the W.
Yup, it is uncomfortable for them to be put on the spot between their Mom and Dad. They love both of you and it's hard to hear one parent talk negatively about the other.
So want to be my STFU Ballroom dance partner?!! Then dust off your tuxedo and drop your PE teacher's whistle for a night. We'll have a grand time twirling around the nice, hardwood ballroom floor.
Hey, have you had a chance to talk with your son and DIL about the party yet? How's that going so far? You might want to ask them what they'd like to see happen and then you make that stuff happen within reason. Boy, before you know it, the date will be right around the corner.