Yeah, I can totally relate to what you're saying as I had the same thoughts before S. On the one hand DB'ing says not to bring it up, but on the other hand you want to be prepared for what is coming. I did have that convo with my W, I asked her to set aside some time so we could discuss the logistics of the S. I put together a list of questions and comments so we could keep it short and to the point. We basically discussed it like two people might discuss a business negotiation. We negotiated a few things (particularly what she would be taking from the house) and got through it all peacefully. Afterwards I typed up the informal agreement and sent her a copy and that became our template when she moved out.
