Just wanted to throw that out there - you are not alone, and sometimes, I think maybe just checking up on them (not snooping) may even help with detachment.
You are right M!! I was not snooping, just reminding myself of the reality of my sitch I really did need a physical reminder of the OW's presence in my H's life. You cant deny it when it is right in front of your face. My H's behavior towards me has changed over the past few weeks (leaving cupcakes, calling/texting more). But none of it matters until he is done with the OW. Every time I feel like I take a step forward, I get knocked back. But I also know that it what needs to happen to keep growing and changing.
I have been thinking about switching from yoga to kickboxing for a bit in order to get out some anger
I really did need a physical reminder of the OW's presence in my H's life. You cant deny it when it is right in front of your face. My H's behavior towards me has changed over the past few weeks (leaving cupcakes, calling/texting more). But none of it matters until he is done with the OW. Every time I feel like I take a step forward, I get knocked back. But I also know that it what needs to happen to keep growing and changing.