Only have time for a quick note right now, but wanted to let you know, no 2x4s here. I have come to realize that there is a time and place for "snooping." I wouldn't even really call it snooping to look on FB since it's for public consumption.

Over the past few days, I have looked up my H on match.com. (Though I could log in AS him, I don't.) I don't really look at much, just notice whether he is online or not. (There is a big "ONLINE NOW" thing that comes on the screen.) He is online ALL THE TIME. I mean he stays up late on match.com. He is on at work. He is on after work.

I look at it to remind myself that he is some totally foreign person to me. And that I deserve better. AND, that if prowling match.com 24/7 is his idea of happiness, I know I can never give that to him.

Just wanted to throw that out there - you are not alone, and sometimes, I think maybe just checking up on them (not snooping) may even help with detachment.

More later, gotta run to L appt.!

me: 44 XH: 42
M 11 years
D10 and S8
Bomb drop 9/27/13
D final 7/1/14