MLC and Covert Depression at 62?

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Your focus now needs to be on how your grandfather is doing and be there as a family member for his time is fading fast.

I agree w/KML that it's a good thing that your daughter isn't living there right now because these crisis people can do some really nutty stuff and you don't want your daughter exposed to all that emotional garbage, as well as anything else he may have sitting around the home. It just isn't healthy for the children to be exposed to all of that stress and tension if it's not necessary. Just my two cents.

Also, even if he came running back, begging you to come back, I wouldn't do it right a way. He most definitely would have to do the hard work of seeking counseling, show you that he's the man of your dreams and yes, win you back. Actions speak louder than words.

As for empathy, his empathy chip is broken. He's not going to feel much of anything right now about your family or your grandfather. He is in the self absorbed, selfish world of "me". It's all about him and what makes him feel good and happy right now. So, please keep your expectations at zero because he's out to lunch.

As for the concerts, that's up to you as to whether you want to proceed and perform w/him. I think I would find it rather awkward to perform w/him, knowing what he's just done.

Yes, it is all part of the MLCer's delusion and crazy thinking. You won't get it because your partner is not thinking rationally right now. You can't rationalize w/an irrational person.

I'm very sorry about your grandfather and that's why it is very important to focus on him, your daughter and yourself. As for the "nutty buddy", leave him in the pot to boil and stew in his own MLC juices. There is no room for you in that pot.