And I am embarrassed to admit that somewhere in the back of my head or bottom of heart I have the fantasy of H coming to me and saying "I am so sorry I made such a mistake. I am going into substance abuse treatment and giving up OW who, by the way, doesn't hold a candle to you. " pathetic again
Julie, that is not at all pathetic! We ALL have thoughts like that after BD. Some heal, detach and move on faster than others, but that's OK, you are on YOUR schedule. Keep GAL'ing and working on you. Each time your H does something like this then mentally log it, so that the next time you'll remember to drop the expectations. This is a long path with many setbacks, the key is to keep bouncing back from the setbacks and moving forward. Each setback makes you a little stronger.
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While I am terrified of how s will respond to 2 residences I am being proactive and talking to his docs and therapists now about how to help him adjust.
Good, in that case you have no reason to be scared, you're doing more than most in your sitch do
