For instance, we are supposed to be amicable, so I ask her if she wants to do something sometimes (really minor, like watch a movie, or halftime show for the superbowl). Anyway, the answer is always no. Am i even supposed to be asking?
No, especially so soon after BD. The only time it's OK to ask is if you're doing something with the kids and inviting her along, but make it clear you are going whether she goes or not. IE, "W, I was going to take the kids to the zoo on Sunday, you're welcome to join if you wish." If she goes then cool. If she doesn't go then fine, you go with the kids anyway. That is the ONLY scenario you should be asking her along for. Don't invite her on dates or anything that is just the two of you together (like watching a movie).
