makingmagic, why don't you just ask sandi? Do you communicate with your H in this circuitous way?

Be direct, ask for what you need. What's the worst that could happen?

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss