I totally understand where you are coming from. I feel like you are at a very tough place in regards to DBing. So, I am going to take the standpoint of devil's advocate in reverse!! You are undoubtedly being tested and since you have been through the ringer for the last 3 years on this subject, you have every right to be fed up. I will say that you have described the ups and downs, and seem so happy when they are the ups. I am sure you are just venting here and that you are not ready to give up...but have you ever thought of giving in...and considering what may happen if you tell your husband that you will support him no matter what? Perhaps he needs to know that you love him enough to trust his judgment. I agree that it was upfront and smart of you to talk with him about your desires when you first met...but life changes things. Is it possible that he needs more support? (Believe me, I know you do too!!!) You have been DBing for a reason...but you haven't done all of this work to give up now. Remember how it takes a long time. Remember how far you've come and not how far you have to go. xoxoxo
Me:35 BF:36 Together 4.5 years lived together 2 years moved out 8-13 still "together" but not together. Confused. D11, D13 (from 1st marriage)
