"I want to, at he very least, be friends with you."
"We need to be friends and then see where that leads."
"I want you to be happy, and you deserve someone who can give you what you are looking for."
"I enjoy spending time with you and I want to have a relationship with you."
But also, he wants a D.
I kind of wonder if they just say this crap bc it helps to assuage their guilt. Either that, or they really are that selfish that they want to be rid of the parts of the M they don't like (the obligations, basically), but still expect us to be their "friend."
Ha ha, no, it's not wrong of you to want his team to lose (then again, I'm a Broncos fan so a bit biased), but it won't really make your life any better to know he is unhappy, will it? OK, well maybe for a moment, but in the grand scheme of things, not really.
Your H thinks he has things all figured out. You don't. And don't expect yourself to. for right now, follow the 37 rules, and focus on taking care of yourself and living your life one day at a time.
I agree with 3bm, you don't have to do everything on your H's timetable. Tell him that you need some time to process this.
Keep posting, and keep putting one foot in front of the other. It does get better.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
