It's Time to Sing a Brand New Song

[Mimi00]

Thanks Melissa for your kind words. Sometimes I think I may not find someone else, and you know what, I am kind of OK with that. Maybe because at this point I don't really want to learn someone else again? Relationships are a lot of work to have a good one.....and I don't know, it would have to be a really really REALLY great guy to make me consider marriage again. These days, even when I do have rare thoughts of my H possibly wanting to come back someday, it is somewhat scary instead of desirable. I'm happy with my own space right now. Just me and my crazy dog lol

I wonder if your H hadn't used the word D before because he felt you would react to it. Your cooperation lately probably has him thinking that you are fine with it now. (After all, if he tells himself that story, he doesn't have to feel guilty, right?) I know that is mind reading, but just throwing it out there. I know you're not going to do or change anything based on what he may or may not be thinking.

I thought maybe it was b/c my email to him was so business-like. Also I don't think he expected me to get my name pulled from the accounts so quickly. I did it w/in 48 hours of discussing it with him. What he doesn't realize is I don't NEED him. I never have. I WANTED him. He makes double (sometimes triple) what I make and I have been able to save a few thousand in the last few months of being alone.
While he has spent several thousand.

The day I removed my name from the accounts the checking had $150, the savings had been wiped out down to $25 and he had another week or so until he got paid again.... I assume he survived though. *shrugs*
Just as your H has a "dad pad" I'm sure my H has createed his own bachelor pad, that's the only logical thing I can assume our savings went to. Before I blocked him on social media I saw him invite several young ladies to visit..... O_o
My H is actually in your state. He loves it there and plans to be there for 5 years, snowboarding every weekend, living in his fantasy world.

Just as your H said he's so happy and his life is great; mine told me that where he lives now, his life daily is "stress free" and every day he wakes up with out me, he feels as if "nothing is missing". Yes, he said that lol

On a completely unrelated note, why does Miley Cryus feel compelled to be naked in all her music videos?

I'm sure her break up w/ her fiance has a lot to do with "new Miley"....having that make you just not care anymore and want to live life the way you want to b/c living it the "PC" way still got your heart broken.

Hopefully it's majority just an act and she doesn't do the all to downward spiral entertainer path.
It's not attractive at all...

I think that we do more harm than good when we look at others lives and compare them to our own because we never know the real story.

It's funny, several months ago, around the start of my sitch I was on FB and it was my cousin's ex-wife's birthday (they divorced several months prior). I don't know her well, I've only met her once, but I decided to wish her HBD b/c I knew he left her. She responded "Thanks 'Mimi', you have a good life, I hope you are grateful".

Way to assume lady....way to assume! I was so annoyed. What was she basing the assumption of my o so "good life" off of? a few FB photos? Little did she know I was/am going through the same thing she is. smh.

When I look at couples now, I tend to say a little prayer for them b/c I KNOW better. I never want any one to experience what I have. Divorce seems to be every where in the last several months... or maybe I just notice it more b/c of my sitch? Either way, it makes me a bit sick to my stomach.