Hey P and 3BM, Yes I too had to do the boundary talk so we are all there/were. I went as far as saying that H had to ring before turning up as we are out alot these days. I also rearranged the house as drastically as possible so that when he did visit there was alot of change. (rearranged the lounge room 4 times now and started painting walls - when he asked I said it was incase I needed to get it on the real estate market if I could manage to afford things myself) Took down wedding pics too. I believe this is the beginning of them starting to look inward. They are getting what they wanted and realise that it may not be as glossy as they were imagining. I do not think they think about what our life looks like without them just what there life looks like without us. This is a rude shock for them.
_____________________________________________________ Me 32 H 32 D 6 S 4 S 11mth
Never allow kindness be misinterpreted for weakness. Forgiveness is a gift you give yourself.
