Don't know if im on the edge anymore or not....

[dingo]

Wow guys - thanks for all the great responses. There's a lot in here for me to think about.

My wife did call me this afternoon and I did pick up the phone. She started in with a bunch of small talk, telling me about her family and her weekend, etc. After a minute or so, I stopped her and reminded her that we agreed that we weren't going to talk until she was 100% done with the affair. I asked her if that was the case. She told me that she hadn't seen him or talked to him in a few weeks and that she was working on it but its hard because she doesn't know what's "right for her" (fvcking hate that phrase). She has an appointment with an IC this week and still wants to talk to a DB coach. She accused me of seeing someone else (apparently that's what she assumed when I didn't respond to her emails right away). I told her that I was trying to respect her need for space to figure herself out and that she needed to do the same to allow me to figure out what I wanted. She responded with 'I thought you wanted to work on our marriage'.

Anyway - the call lasted just over 5 minutes or so and ended with me again reminding her to respect what I was asking her for which was NC until affair is over.

I am going over to a friend's house to watch the game but I will post more later/tomorrow.

One thing I did want to ask Sandi is where you got the impression that my wife wanted to see what else was out there beyond the OM? I don't recall her ever saying anything like that to me.