I also wanted to quickly post that I have bought a copy of Broken Heart on Hold by Linda Rook and it has been a literal godsend for me. As a Catholic (who takes her religion quite privately) I was reminded today of God's work in this sort of situation. I feel a bit calmer today. I am learning to let go and detach. I think I am starting to understand how standing does not mean that you don't detach. As you rightly say Job, live as if they will not come back. but, I guess, in a quiet part of your heart, you stand for them and for what you know to be true of the relationship you had with them, not what version they are conjuring up now... Wow - this is a really tough tough process... I x
