[quote=KGirl] So I come in and say "I'm only going to help you if you treat me politely". His response: "Well, your question before was really stupid, you can clearly see what I entered in the form so far." I don't even know how to go about setting boundaries because I don't know what the consequence would be. [quote]
KGirl - You told your H the consequence in your statement. If he did not treat you politely, you would not help. If your H continues to be rude, simply walk away. Leave him to do the taxes on his own. You don't have to set forth an earth shattering consequence. There is actually the one boundary that I set that has worked pretty well. I used to engage my H and it would just escalate the situation. So when I started walking away (with a smile on my face and not stomping in anger), he noticed. Eventually, he started treating me better.
I know that you want answers to your questions. I would come on here and write them out to stop me from asking my H. Your H is not capable of answering them. He probably does not even know exactly what he is doing (at least if he is anything like my WAH). All you can do is focus on yourself. If you are worried about finances, you may want to reach out to a L just to see what may happen so you are prepared (I need to take my own advice on this one).
Moving out and getting a D is not going to end this pain. You will have to deal with it one way or another, so you might as well use this time to improve yourself.
