my wife left, but still lives with me #2/continued

[tough spot]

I am starting to wonder if maybe she is even correct. Now that i am not flailing around as much, trying some things, thinking all sorts of things to save our marriage, some time is left to ponder her side of the equation.

How do you tell if maybe we aren't supposed to be together? Even if we did stay together, some of the 'stuff' is hers and she doesn't seem willing to even consider/work on that. Granted that would be in the future, if there was a future, but i do think about it.

We weren't very connected and we did drift apart. So the marriage was no good as it was. I do question if i keep working on myself, become a better/whole person.....and she has already gone through a bunch of changes, she is giving no chance to see what two healthier people can do in this relationship.

That is definitely something i think is a big mistake.
However, in her mind, maybe it doesn't matter if i change a lot.....idk....just rambling.