Dingo, in essence then, your W was 'pinging' you to see if you were still on the hook...(according to my understanding of the stuff above). She wants to stay in a fantasy that says she has all the time and choices in the world. Dingo's in the for the long haul.

Sandi, did I paraphrase this correctly or am I misunderstanding. and if I'm correct, damn that's not a nice thing for people to do....

me: 47, W:49
M 16.5 years
T 17 years
Three kids - D17,D14, S13
Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13
Bomb drop 11/29/13
W moved out 12/5/13
I Retained L 2/20/14
D filed 3/17/14