Good for you, 3. And you know what just struck me? Your last sentence. That's the difference between us and our Hs right there. It occurred to me this morning that I spend hours on this site, reading books, joining groups, trying to make my life and my kids' life the best I possibly can in spite of the wreckage, while my H spends hours on match.com, trying to find someone to stroke his ego (with no obligations or expectations, of course). Pretty much the same for your H, except spending time doing his own thing or hanging out with OW.
Instead of worrying about what our Hs are doing, we should be proud of what we are doing.
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14
