Sandi2 makes a lot of sense. I haven't been following your entire thread but if sandi feels you're not in the right stage to be "friends" it seems like it would make sense to stick with your boundaries.

I believe there is a time and place for everything. Seems like the people here don't believe it's the right time for you to be engaging in your w.

Me-35 Com law-28
S-3
T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu
1st bu- 2/2012
Rec-4/2013
2nd bu-10/2013
IC-2 yrs(anger issues)
MC- 5 mnths-fail
OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14
New OM ~10/4/14