Good for you 3!! The problem was out of your control. That is one of the first things you learn in alanon. I have been struggling with discovering who I became as a result of my H drinking and how different and better I am now that I have taken that out of the equation.

True you don't have to make a decision now whether you want H back but yeah for you to acknowledge it would be your choice.

Me 44 H 42
M 10 T 12 (at time of BD)
Ss 20 16
S11 (special needs)

BD 9/13 H "unhappy for years" moves to seperate bedroom
10/13 EA/PA confirmed but denied
S and I move out 3/15