Thanks Fly. The first thing I did before posting was print out sandi's 37 rules.

My work load has changed significantly, by coincidence and by my action of demanding more support. Unfortunately her work load will not change for the next 3 to 5 years.

I made some changes in December and we actually had some good times and enjoyed each other.

I had a company Christmas party, that we always enjoy, and we won the dancing competition. And we also had a nice early Christmas celebration the next day with her family, which was great.

When I asked her about these nights after she left she told me that "she could of had just as much fun with a friend" at the Company party.

The time with her family she said made her angry because "since I tried to enjoy it, I actually did" and it only reminded her of the times when I did not enjoy spending time with her family (which had not happened in about 18 months to two years ago).

I will move this over to the Newcomers.


M:34 XW:34
Together: 10y
Living: 9y
Married: 7y
Son:6 Son:4
Separated: 12/28/13
Piecing: 5/2/14
Separated 2nd: 10/16/14
W filed, but pulled it: 11/5/14
papers served: 1/27/15
D final: 3/6/15