We discussed dating websites, etc. I said that since he is checking out the "other side" maybe that I should too."

That is so controlling and manipulative. Not "truth". but, it IS the truth... I have considered, but can't see myself liking it much



Its manipulative because your intention was to make him jealous and therefore manipulate his actions. It has nothing to do with you considering it.

any time you say or do something to try to force a reaction from someone its manipulation. you're not giving them the space to make the decision on their own.

you are using your words, your txts, your boundaries to manipulate him to want to come back to you. But in reality, that manipulation pushes him away.

it is impossible for you to just let him make the decision on his own.

"In a ham and eggs breakfast, the hen is involved, but the pig is committed".