I found detaching difficult as well. The thing that is working for me is to stop dwelling on the situation as much as I was. I remind myself now everyday to slow down looking up advice online, talking to others seeking advice, to focus less on the situ and more on me and improving myself. Its hard, because like everyone else, I hope to find that magic solution. I keep reminding myself that this is a marathon and not a race.
Twisting on Life's Rope Me53 W53 M20 D21 D19 D16 BD 2-2013 D final 1-2015 _________________________ "Dream about tomorrow, Live for today, Learn from yesterday"