Don't know if im on the edge anymore or not....

[labug]

I agree with Paul. If you're at a place where you can be teflon-man and her cycling doesn't keep you on the proverbial roller-coaster, then go for it. Interact as much as you feel comfortable.

I got that way in my R (of course it took me a lot longer). H and I could interact and I wasn't emotionally rocked by his response or lack of response. Life was good and that's when we tentatively started a R. But your W is in a very different place than my H was at the time.

Doesn't it show her that I am strong enough to respond without falling apart and begging her to come back. Doesn't ignoring her tell her that I can't handle it?

Mind reading. We don't know what she takes away from your actions.

I don't often advocate acting to "show" people things, do it because it's what's best for you, it's who you are. If we're doing things only for effect, our actions (changes) are seldom sustainable.

If you can do what you do with dignity, compassion and empathy, maintaining your boundaries and having NO EXPECTATIONS, you'll be good.