I'm sorry you've had to return, but it does sound like he's having a crisis and yes, they can have a crisis at 62. Are you aware of any health issues or changes in his life in the last 18 months?
From your posting, I gather you have moved out of the home? If so, I would contact him at some point and ask if you can come by to get the rest of your belongings when he's not home.
After removing your belongings, I would leave him alone and allow him to have plenty of space. Do not contact him unless it's an emergency. He has specifically stated what type of contact he wants w/you and I would adhere to it as much as possible.
Ensure that you are not liable for any bills that he may incur because you never know if he'll be one of the ones that has a major spending spree along the way.
Try to keep the focus on you and your daughter. Take care of yourself the best you can. Live your life as if he may not want to reconcile.
I'm am very sorry that you have had to return.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
