I have been MIA a bit and am just seeing your posts. I agree with LA...she gave you a good line. Remember what the wise DBers say also...only believe half of what you hear...etc. you know the one. I say that in regards to everything that she said to you, and your SIL. You are doing very well, and at this point there is no harm in validating by saying what you think about her POV...but she says she has ideas and doesn't say what they are. Perhaps she has said them to you, but I remember thinking this before when you posted something similar. Is it possible that she doesn't want to admit she needs you...and doesn't know where to go from here? Meaning, she has thought about it so much and it doesn't look good from her side... and she's willing to take the short end of the stick but she wants you to say you will give her a break?? I think this is a perfect opportunity for you to flex a little muscle. Maybe you can take some initiative and give her some clear and fair, business-like options which will send a message that you take her seriously and validate without saying that you specifically agree or disagree with her choices.
Does that make sense? It does in my head!
Did you get back to her yet?
Also, I didn't understand the "divine impression" thing. Why does this make you lose hope? Does she mean she will not get back together unless some miracle happens? I'm confused? But if that is the case, your hope should remain high!! Miracles happen when fear goes away and love replaces it...so, act towards your W with loving intentions..and just wait!
Youre awesome Groov! Keep it up!
Me:35 BF:36 Together 4.5 years lived together 2 years moved out 8-13 still "together" but not together. Confused. D11, D13 (from 1st marriage)
