The only one that's relevant to the current situation is the standard for infidelity: We will not work on our relationship while you are involved in another.
She has been told this.
I think it's clear that she either doesn't think communicating with you violates that boundary or she does, but doesn't care.
You're getting good advice. Listen to it.
-PM
M:12y - BD:12/11 - D:6/13 - 4Ds
"The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy." -MLK Jr.
