Here I Am Again!

[Missmygirl]

Thanks for the replies. It always helps to get perspective from people outside and far removed from my problems.

L4W,

I especially appreciate your response because you have lived it. I am a very structured person by nature. My daughter isn't. When I offer solutions and meet her obstinance, I am irritated by it. I know that affects my response. I do my best to remind myself to hear her side. I then expect her to comply with whatever decision I make. If she cooperates, things go smoothly. If she doesn't, then I start punishing her by taking away privileges.

After reading your post Nd talking with a very close friend who is not like me at all, I have decided to change my approach and see if it works. I'm going to stick to the concept of "what are we trying to accomplish here?" That means I wont try to control the steps to get her there, but I will steer her through the process to ensure she actually arrives at the desired destination.

In addition, I am going to go in for counseling on how I can best deal with her. I'm sure I can learn more. I will schedule myself with a counselor who has seen my daughter and knows her. She deals with kids who struggle with ADHD.

Hopefully, I will have some good news to report here regarding my interactions with K.