I think you should work to get to a place where your emotions aren't so intertwined with your thoughts so you can find the true answers to those questions. They're important.
Yes, I know I need to do this.
Do you think you have done this?
me: 44 XH: 42 M 11 years D10 and S8 Bomb drop 9/27/13 D final 7/1/14