Thanks T2... I can see how you may view it as mind reading, but he presses on during our R talks... its like he NEEDS reassurances... but doesnt give me any.

Also... I am confused about the message from OW on our business line. He has not erased it yet (I don't think). I know he is NOT sloppy about his private hidden stuff... Did he want me to hear it? did he want all of this exposed? Do I bring it up that I have heard it, and ask if he is still seeing her?

These are the questions in my head....

Yes... I understand put aside MY WANTS.. I will try to remember that.

When he leads into his old hurts... do I not say sorry & that I was wrong, that I have always loved him, still do? When he says "i dont know what to do, or what I want or if we should get back together"... do I just say, "Im sure you will figure out what is best for you"

M:46 H:49 T:20yrs
myD:22
H distant summer/12
H sleeping in b'ment: Nov/12
BD: Dec 2/12
asked me begin to move end of Jan/13
moved Jan 7/13 (left my stuff)
"agreed" to "working on r" Mar 3/13(lipservice!)