Don't know if im on the edge anymore or not....

[dingo]

with no expectations.

Can you truly do that at this stage?

Again, go back to the email she sent you about getting together.

When her emails don't send you spinning, you're probably closer to being detached. Then think about letting her in a little.

If you not responding to her every email or text sends her into OM arms, she was never really out of them.

I guess I don't know if I can do it with no expectations until I try. Her email did send me spinning but only for a short time. I feel like I am pretty well grounded right now but maybe I'm not - the only way to know that for sure is to have interactions with her, right?

I don't think I am suggesting that she will run to the OM if I ignore her but I don't want to make it so uncomfortable for her to approach me that she won't do it. I read her initial email about it being weird not talking to me as essentially saying 'i miss you.' If that's her testing the waters to see if its safe for her to be vulnerable around me without me either: 1) pressuring her to get right back into working on things or 2) telling her to piss off, then I guess I feel like I owe it to myself to hear her out. If I do end up expecting things and I am not as ready as I thought, then I have to 1) learn my lesson for the next time and 2) not let her see that I had expectations so that she does still feel comfortable approaching me.

I guess what I am saying is that I don't know until I try. Its about trying things and seeing what works, right?

Again - please please please tell me if I am really missing the boat on this....