Yea i haven't updated in awhile, She's back home and we are working through things it's been a filled with many up's and downs but I can honestly say i'm so much better for the sitch as much as I hated it. I think our sitch have lot's incommon. Like you all we have no kids together and I always thought she had no reason to return, but not so... The only constant in life is change, and what they feel today might not be the same tomorrow. In my sitch there wasn't OM that I know of and like you I snooped! All the time, maybe not what's reccommended but i've always liked to know what i'm facing. The thing is I was strong enough to not confront whenever I saw a number I didn't know or when she talked about me on FB to friends(Had her pw). Doesn't work for all but to each his own... The site is a GREAT resource but nothing any of us say here is infalliable after all we are all human. Do you what works for you, I asked an old lady the other day who'd been married for 65 years what the secret was she said "Endless patience, and no matter how crazy or wrong you think the other person is you are just as wrong and crazy!" That touched me deep and it's really that simple...
Let grace and mercy be your guide, doesn't mean take whatever or tolerate infidelity, just remember we all fall short.
Originally Posted By: labug
If you not responding to her every email or text sends her into OM arms, she was never really out of them.
Def agree one of the biggest mistakes I made was operating out of fear. DON'T let fear dictate!
