The problem with having a set of prepared answers is that you have the tendency to spend the conversation waiting for your opportunity to use those answers.
and while you're watching for your opening, you're not truly listening. and this is very obvious to the other person.
Yes!! ^^^ Very true. When I finally stopped doing that ^^^, W actually noticed and commented on it, and this was way back in the angry vemon-spewing alien days!
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
