Don't know if im on the edge anymore or not....

[dingo]

Don't mind-read about what's going on in her head about D, the other man, etc. That's fear-based and living in fear keeps you stuck.

Do what's best for Dingo.

Thanks for your response bug. I understand about boundaries but if I let those boundaries become a wall, that doesn't do me any good either.

Isn't saying, 'I won't respond because she's crossed this boundary and hurt me before so I want to protect myself from further hurt' also fear based?

Again, if one of my goals is reconciliation, isn't it preferable to let her in just a little - with no expectations either way and no pressure and see what happens?