During my "quiet time" yesterday I realised I am the only one finding problems with the current situation. got up today in a more positive frame of mind.

Put on some "respectable" clothes (i.e not old, baggy ready to throw out"
Applied for a job
Registered with a new dental practice
got chatting with some one I'd never met before in the street and gave them my phone number to call me (very nice woman with a puppy she needed help with) - not something I would normally do
Texted ex with times I would be at our cottage and arranged a time to meet him.

The respectable clothes are now covered in mud from playing with the puppy, but who cares. I am feeling like I can do anything today...