That's tough man. It's like no matter what you do you will be labeled controlling. I have found it next to impossible to change someone's perception of you.

If it were me I'd try to hash it out with a counselor. There could be a number of factors that make meeting in the middle difficult for your w. Resentment is a huge one. Do you think your w suffers from anything? Mental, emotional, physical?

I've been labeled controlling and jealous by my ex yet my counselor doesn't think so. It is so damn hard to remove that perception. In your case your d's upbringing is at stake. That's tough man. I'm sorry I can't offer better advice.

Me-35 Com law-28
S-3
T-6 yrs w/14 mnth bu
1st bu- 2/2012
Rec-4/2013
2nd bu-10/2013
IC-2 yrs(anger issues)
MC- 5 mnths-fail
OM~1/1/14 OM dumped 6/4/14
New OM ~10/4/14