maybe a bit off the edge?

[melissag]

I believe it was the W who brought up wanting to talk, to Dingo.

Sandi, I get that boundaries are for the LBS, but should it be utterly irrelevant, to someone who is trying to save his M, what the reaction of the WAS will be? I get a little stuck where I think that if I ignore my H, he will think I am being childish and giving him the silent treatment. So I try to respond as minimally as possible (assuming the communication requires a response) rather than ignoring entirely.

I know you were once a WAS . . . did your H go NC on you? What did you think of that?

When Dingo's W reaches out, at what point should he respond to her? Not until she dumps the OM and recommits to their M?