It never ceases to amaze me the excuses a LBS will find to contact his wayward W. Then other LBS encourage you to be civil and don't be rude. Your W continues to be in an adulterous relationship with another man........and you don't want her thinking you are rude for not hoping to respond to her rather crazy email?
Oh I understand the concepts of being the better person, and saying "that is just the kind of person I am", taking the high road, etc., etc. But since I've already explained how the NC was to help you get stronger and get in control of yourself........I see no point of hashing it out any further after you went ahead and contacted her anyway......and even open the door for another contact. That's what I mean dingo. You cannot just answer with "I am find, thanks", and leave it at that. You have to carry it further......Which shows a terrible addiction or dependence you have on her.
Sorry if I sound offensive to anyone, but telling dingo to just respond with a two or three worded friendly email is like advising an alcoholic he should just take one drink so he will appear sociable and not be rude. How much sense would that make? I think he proved the point that he can't do it. He even asked to meet and talk! Unless he is ready to hand over D papers for her to sign (and I don't think he is) he will be facing the same ordeal all over again.
And these actions of NC is not the actions that pushes the WAS further away. I wish that message could get into the mindset of all LBS.
Get that book bug suggest, ASAP.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
