If you are venting, then you might want to caution posters that you are just venting. We can't read your mind as to whether you are just venting or seeking advice, etc.
Keep the focus on you and leave your SO to figure things out. You can't control or fix him. He has to do that. The more you try, the longer it's going to take for him to figure things out.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
